Begin the Change from a Fixed Mindset to A Growth Mindset - extracted from the book Mindset by Carol Dweck

The first four steps...

As you approach a challenge, that voice might say to you 'Are you sure you can do this? Maybe you don't have the talent.' 'What if you fail—you'll be a failure' 'People will laugh at you for thinking you had talent.' 'If you don't try, you can protect yourself and keep your dignity.'

As you hit a setback, the voice might say, 'This would have been a snap if you really had talent.' 'You see, I told you it was a risk. Now you've gone and shown the world how limited you are.' ' It's not too late to back out, make excuses, and try to regain your dignity.'

As you face criticism, you might hear yourself say, 'It's not my fault. It was something or someone else's fault.' You might feel yourself becoming angry at the person who is giving you feedback. 'Who do they think they are? I'll put them in their place.' The other person might be giving you specific, constructive feedback, but you might hear their comments as 'I'm really disappointed in you. I thought you were capable but now I see you're not.'

How you interpret challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice. You can interpret them in a fixed mindset as signs that your fixed talents or abilities are lacking. Or you can interpret them in a growth mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself, and expand your abilities. It's up to you.

So as you face challenges, setbacks, and criticism, listen to the fixed mindset voice and...

As you approach a challenge:

THE FIXED-MINDSET says 'Are you sure you can do it? Maybe you don't have the talent.'

THE GROWTH-MINDSET answers, 'I'm not sure I can do it now, but I know I can learn to with time and effort.'