Ultimate Mind Control

Making fear your best friend....

The visual submodality Associated or Dissociated is very important and refers to whether or not you can see yourself in your mental picture (visual internal representation). You are associated if you can see yourself in the picture. Often we refer to this as 'looking through your own eyes'. If you cannot see yourself in the picture, then we say you are dissociated. If you are associated into a memory, then your feelings (confident, happy, sad, fearful) about that memory will be more intense. If you are dissociated, this is more like watching a movie of your life rather than being there (on the playing field) and any feelings will be less intense or not at all.

For the work of Mind Control to be effective you must develop the ability to associate easily and quickly.

The following two exercises illustrate how submodalities work. You will be asked to make a picture in your mind (an internal representation). For some of us, the pictures we make in our minds are very clear. For others (and this includes me) the picture is not clear, and yet I have a sense of it being there and if I were asked questions about its qualities (submodalities) I would be able to give an answer. To keep the exercises simple, we will only work with the visual submodalities.

Exercise 1:

• Find a comfortable position, close your eyes and create a picture in your mind of someone you really enjoy being with. When you have developed this picture, notice the submodalities. That is, is it a bright or dim picture, where is it located, are you associated or dissociated, etc. Once you have done this, open your eyes and clear your mind by stretching and looking around the room.

• Again close your eyes and this time create a picture in your mind of someone you do not enjoy being with. Notice the submodalities of this picture and I am sure that you can identify several that are different from the picture of someone you enjoy being with. Once you have done this, break your state by stretching and looking around the room.

• I am sure you were able to identify several submodalities that were different in the two internal representations.

• Generally, we tend to have similar submodalities for the internal representations of people we enjoy being with. The submodalities of the internal representations of people we do not enjoy being with will also be similar submodalities and in some way different from the submodalities of people we enjoy being with. This sameness and difference in submodalities allows us to code our experiences and give meaning to our past and future memories (internal representations).

• The ability to change your Submodalities is simple and yet profoundly powerful. For example, if the internal representation of someone you do not enjoy being with is large, and up close (i.e. 'in your face'), what do you think would happen if you made the picture smaller and pushed it away to a comfortable distance? I suspect you would not necessarly end up liking this person, however you may find them not so overbearing.