Ultimate Mind Control

Making fear your best friend....

Exercise 2:

• For this exercise, I would like you to close your eyes and think of a time when you were very happy. Once you have this picture, make it very dark, shrink it down to a small picture and push it far away. When you did this, what did you notice about your feelings of happiness? Reduced or disappeared? You have just learned a great way to remove happiness from your life - take all your happy memories and make the pictures very dark, small and far away. Of course, I am joking. However, there are some people who tend to discount their happy memories by making them darker, smaller and further away, whilst making their unpleasant memories big and bright and close. And how do you think they live their lives?

These two examples illustrate that the submodalities you use to store your memories (past and future) give meaning to your memories. We cannot change an event that has already happened, however by adjusting the submodalities of the memory we can change how we perceive it and therefore respond to it in the future.

You Become what You Think! You know you need Laser Focus and Commitment to become an outstanding racing driver such as Lewis Hamilton or a world class Yachtsman like Ben Ainslie. And the same is true in becoming a Professional Presenter.

You attract to yourself the predominant thoughts that you are holding in your awareness, whether those thoughts are conscious or unconscious. We actualise our experience by creating beliefs about what is important to us. Our beliefs construct our thinking, our thinking forms our actions, and our actions create our success or failure, or even worse mediocrity.

There are two mindsets that I would like to talk with you about. Growth and Fixed.

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can - Richard Bach

World renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck discovered during decades of research on Achievement and Success - an idea that explains why some people achieve their potential while equally talented others do not, why some become Muhammad Ali and others Mike Tyson. The magic formula she found, is not ability or talent, it is whether you look at ability as something inherent that needs to be demonstrated or as something that can be developed.

In her book Mindset Dweck explains:

• Why intelligence and talent do not necessarily bring success.

• How they can stand in the way of it.

• Why praising intelligence and talent doesn't foster self-esteem and accomplishment, but jeopardizes them.

• How teaching a simple idea about the brain raises grades and productivity.

• What all great CEOs, parents, teachers, and athletes know.

Dweck confirms my experience as a performance coach that there are two distinct types of mindsets. Firstly the one that wants to stay in its comfort zone in order to reduce anxiety, and secondly the one that pushes boundaries and is hungry for more, more development, more experience, and more from Life!